Beauty and Relationships

First and foremost, here's my Supernatural Fanfiction, which I'm almost finished with! Chapters 1-23.

So today, I thought I'd talk about something I know EVERYONE can relate to. In our lifetime, most of us want to be loved by someone, and some people spend copious amounts of time trying to find this one person. Many people have their certain standards about their personalities or whatnot, but to lots of others, there's another aspect that they search for. That's right, they also look for how attractive (physically) they are.

The issue is: Are looks really all that important in the relationship? I mean, sure. Just because someone is smokin' hot, it doesn't mean they're going to be the most reliable and loving person on the planet. In fact, many people think it's the opposite. I'll admit, I've had my fair share of thinking someone's attractive, only to find out they're a complete douche bag, but who says that it's always supposed to be that way?

There are many sides to this argument (at least from what I hear from different people). There are people who think that being physically attracted to their partner isn't essential. They think that a relationship is based solely on what they see on the inside, and not what's on the outside.

There are people who think looks are a bonus. They'll try hard to find someone who they're physically attracted to, but they won't necessarily make it a priority. If they find someone who they connect with on an emotional level, it might be all they need, but if they aren't necessarily "pretty", whether they think they are or not, they'll still stay happy and content with them.

And of course, there are the ones who base relationships solely on how people look. If the person isn't physically attractive to them at all, they won't even consider getting to know them. These people might be considered "picky", but others might just call it high standards.

What's my side on the issue? Personally, I want to be physically attracted to my partner. I feel like I won't be able to be in a relationship unless I'm able to look at the person without having a strong urge to look away. Now I'm sure some of you could be thinking, "Damn, this guy's shallow". Almost everyone I know can vouch for the fact that I'm not the least bit shallow. I'm saying this because I know I'm not the hottest thing on the block.I just think you have to connect with your partner in more ways than just emotionally, because you're, potentially, going to be spending the rest of your life with this person.

There's the underlying "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" type of thing when it comes to this topic, of course. I'm not trying to say that certain people only pick people that are attractive, but are attractive to them. Not all of us have the same taste, so I could think someone is absolutely hunky, while you think they're junky.

Song of the week! 

This is a multi-racial kpop band whom I've fallen in love with. This song has been on repeat since I've discovered it.

That's all for now! Have a great day!

FWB: Friends With Benefits

Added a few new chapters to my Supernatural Fanfiction, so here you go! Chapters 1-8.


Feelin' pretty awesome, guys. I've lost 15 pounds this summer!


Alright, Jeff. Get on with the topic! So I saw Friends With Benefits (the movie, duhhh) a few days ago, and that is what inspired this blog post. In case you aren't street smart, and you've never been taught what "friends with benefits" are, then maybe I should get on with teaching you this terminology.

Friends with Benefits: noun A set of friends who engage in casual, sexual acts with each other, but try to keep it from getting emotional. Strictly meant for pleasure.


If your version of "friends with benefits" is anything other than this, such as friends who share cake or toys with each other, you might want to think of a new title before people think differently. Just think of "My FWB and I are going to go share some toys today" would sound to someone who knows the correct definition for it.


Anyway, it was mentioned in the movie that you can never have a connection like that without one of the friends becoming emotionally close to the other. With all the physical affection (whether sexual or not) you share with that person, it's bound that someone is going to end up becoming fond of them in a romantic sense.


My opinion on this is that, well, I don't think a friends with benefits connection is possible. I've thought about how I would be if I had a friend like this, and I think I would end up becoming to attached to them. If they were flirting with someone, I couldn't do anything about it because we, technically, have no obligations to each other. I can't ask something of them that they aren't entitled to do in the first place. I don't necessarily think these types of friendships are wrong, but I just think there's too many complications.


So yes, I don't think it's possible to have a friends with benefits connection with someone. It's just bound to turn into an emotional mess that gets way too out of control, and someone will wind up getting hurt. Hey, if you're one of the people who's made it work, then good for you. I'm glad you've found a way.

I kind of like posting songs at the end of each post, so I think I'll continue to do so! Here's my favorite one for this week.

I finally found a full version of this song! Yes! These are my two FAVORITE characters from Victorious, and this song is so amazing. For those who watch Victorious, but haven't seen this episode, it's the one where Cat and Jade get kicked out of the karaoke joint because the girls they sang against had them kicked out (the place is owned by the brunette one's dad).

Anyway, enjoy that, and see y'all again next Wednesday!

Relaxation! Kinda...

I'm finally on my summer break! Thank the heavens above! I can finally just go through a whole day without thinking about academics or what's due the next day. Might I add, I had all A's and B's my first year in college. Do I rock, or what?

Now that summer's beginning, I've been trying to find things to do in order to keep me from dying a terrible death...of being murdered by boredom. Other than the large amounts of video games I will be playing, and the shows I need to catch up on, I'll actually be doing something productive,or at least I will be trying!

I've decided I want to learn to cook. I have been motivating myself by watching endless hours of Food Network. I want to be able to make delicious things, and hopefully be skilled enough to renovate dishes that I know and make them better. I feel like I've taken on quite the task...but I'm gonna do it! In fact, here's the first thing I cooked! (Thanks for helping, mom!)

So this marvelous dish is called Sopita. My mom has made it ever since I was old enough to remember, and I love it each and every time I eat it. When I try to explain it to my friends, I usually just say, "It's like Mexican macaroni and cheese". It contains macaroni noodles, tomato sauce, and colby jack cheese. For flavor, we add garlic salt, pepper, and some crushed red peppers for spice. I'm pretty sure I can make this on my own now, so I definitely know I'm making progress!


On a less exciting note, I also feel as if I'll just go back to being terribly bored again. There's just this void I feel like I'm trying to fill, (wow, way to be cliché), and everything I do just doesn't seem to help. I'll admit, I'm kind of missing the whole "dating" stuff, and I really hate admitting that. I just feel like I don't need a relationship to be entertained, but I also feel like I'd be a bit more upbeat if I did. I'd feel like the days wouldn't drag on and on.


Well, back to more exciting stuff! (Can't end this entry on a sad note.) I'm also thinking of ways to improve my writing. Blogging is one of them, which I will be trying to do more often, but I need more. I crave more. So...I might do something I wanted to stay away from. I might...write fan-fiction. Oh Lord, you have no idea how hard that was to say. Anywho, if you aren't familiar with the world of fan-fiction, it's basically taking books/movies/video games that already exist, and creating a story using it. (I'm trying my best to explain this...so bear with me!) Basically, you're just using that material as a premise, while creating your own story within it, using the characters from it and/or adding your own characters. I'm only so against it because I had a certain friend who would act like it was the actual story, and thus, I thought I would turn into a noob as well. (Noob: n. A person who fails.)


Hopefully, after this summer, I'll feel a bit better about myself and be somewhat productive. Here I come, summer! And on that note, I'll make sure to think of wittier comments this summer...

Oh, That Stupid Cupid

Being interested, or liking someone: Which is more frustrating?

Being interested in someone is like seeing a beautiful slice of cake, and you want to take a bite, but you don’t just want to dig right in. There’s always that barrier that prevents you from being more than just interested. Whether it’s because you can never find the right time to talk to them, or they are just the most ridiculous person to talk to (and I’m not saying ridiculously entertaining), you just don’t feel like there can ever be a connection, no matter how much you want to get to know this person. 

If being interested has escalated into “liking” them, this becomes a different story. Now you’ve inspected the cake well enough to eat it, but you aren’t sure if this cake will give you major indigestion. When you like someone, you know that you want to at least give them a try at a relationship with you, but you can never be too sure if they want one at all. This can be emotionally tiring, and even nauseating at times. Nauseating? How so? Well, in the sense that you like them so much, that you find them to be a “jerk” or, as the kids call it these days, a “douche bag” because they show little or no sign that they have mutual attractions to you. It becomes an emotional fiasco that no one should have to deal with.

The bright side? Bitter, but possibly true: it isn’t meant to be. If there’s no time, or no incentive to speak with someone you are interested in, you probably won’t end up growing romantically attached to them. When it comes to liking someone that won’t show any signs that they like you back, it’s hard to face facts, but it’s emotionally draining to deal with that kind of situation. If you’re interested in/liking someone currently, that’s great! Be careful, and I hope things go well for you. If they aren’t, don’t push things, denying that they do not like you yet. Believe me, you will be known as “pushy psycho” by all of their friends, as well as the friends of those friends. You don’t want that. One of them could be that soul mate of yours.