Oh, That Stupid Cupid

Being interested, or liking someone: Which is more frustrating?

Being interested in someone is like seeing a beautiful slice of cake, and you want to take a bite, but you don’t just want to dig right in. There’s always that barrier that prevents you from being more than just interested. Whether it’s because you can never find the right time to talk to them, or they are just the most ridiculous person to talk to (and I’m not saying ridiculously entertaining), you just don’t feel like there can ever be a connection, no matter how much you want to get to know this person. 

If being interested has escalated into “liking” them, this becomes a different story. Now you’ve inspected the cake well enough to eat it, but you aren’t sure if this cake will give you major indigestion. When you like someone, you know that you want to at least give them a try at a relationship with you, but you can never be too sure if they want one at all. This can be emotionally tiring, and even nauseating at times. Nauseating? How so? Well, in the sense that you like them so much, that you find them to be a “jerk” or, as the kids call it these days, a “douche bag” because they show little or no sign that they have mutual attractions to you. It becomes an emotional fiasco that no one should have to deal with.

The bright side? Bitter, but possibly true: it isn’t meant to be. If there’s no time, or no incentive to speak with someone you are interested in, you probably won’t end up growing romantically attached to them. When it comes to liking someone that won’t show any signs that they like you back, it’s hard to face facts, but it’s emotionally draining to deal with that kind of situation. If you’re interested in/liking someone currently, that’s great! Be careful, and I hope things go well for you. If they aren’t, don’t push things, denying that they do not like you yet. Believe me, you will be known as “pushy psycho” by all of their friends, as well as the friends of those friends. You don’t want that. One of them could be that soul mate of yours.